"However, upon further inspection, I see that I want to feel strong, emotionally resilient, and happy without doing anything about it. But that’s not how it works."

I agree. There are things we don't enjoy doing, but are worth doing anyway. These things we feel better after we do them. There are other things that are just plain frustrating with little payoff. I can't think of an example at the moment. These are things I'd like to blink like Barbara Eden in I Dream of Jeanie and they'd be done.

Discipline Hurts

https://medium.com/@kit-carmelite-2008/discipline-hurts-1f5b6157f267